Happy New Year

So here it is the very last day of 2008. Finally.

Overall it's been a good year for me. The start was rough - but it got easier. Did I mention that today was the day I got married 8 years ago? We have been apart for over a year now, so today was a lot easier than last year. And I am with a wonderful man now that I am truly happy with, but there is still the lingering sadness that the marriage failed. I know I won't make the same mistakes I made last time, but there are still plenty to make.

Some of the things I do differently - that I resolve to try to do all year:

Set up his coffee - believe me when I tell you this is an act of love
Text him silly messages that let him know I am thinking of him
Try to NEVER bad mouth him to friends or family
Try to be patient and loving when either of us is cranky or grumpy
Don't question his decisions
Not nag (thankfully this not an issue - he does more than I could even ask for)
Give him time to do what he needs to do without me
Take care of myself - and not lean on him too heavily
Spend time WITH him - not just in the same room at the same time
Talk and share my feelings even when it makes me vulnerable

I know there is more - but these are the things that I KNOW I did wrong before - that I do right now. Most of the time. It's easy when the other person does all the same for you.

The mistake I still make? I am selfish as hell. But I am learning. Never let it be said that the power of example can't make a BIG difference :)

I hope that you all can be blessed with a partner that does all this for you - that helps you become the best person you can be.

I also hope that we all see a new year of blessings - joy, peace, good health.

I am ready 2009!